Talking about the concept of virginity makes me very uncomfortable because of the social stigma that exists behind the binary that is virginity or a lack thereof. It classifies girls (and guys, but I won't get into that) into being either pure/innocent/cute/"untainted" or, well, "slutty." It automatically confines us with pre-existing, absolute social judgments and even dictates how we should feel about our own selves on the basis of something so completely irrelevant. 

Sex is sex. With consent and proper protection, it's fucking awesome. GOD FORBID we have a good time, right? Our culture has taught us that it's not maturity or level of preparedness or protection or even the love that matters, but "virginity." Which doesn't even physically exist, and is at the same time a very blurred, undefined concept that was the death of women around the world for ages (if you'd recall the use of "virginity kits" in many third-world countries that encourage virginity as a defining pillar for "purity"). 

Our culture has taught us to believe that someone who's had it is automatically "dirty" or "stained," which is complete bullshit. (And vice versa for virginity - the personal choice to abstain has nothing to do with the person, least of all whether they're a "loser" or not). The labels created for virgins/non-virgins only support a bullshit, undefined binary (with no in-between) system that only reinforces slut-shaming/virgin-shaming and moral absolutes that dictate what is "wrong" and what is "right" to do, even in the case of decisions that should be completely personal and should make the woman feel empowered in their ability to decide what's best for themselves. - Lucy Doan

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